If you’re trying to win back your ex right now, and you’re worried that you might just be wasting your time, watch the video above and see how many of these 7 signs ring true for you.
The more of these 7 signs that apply to your current situation, the less likely it is you’ll be able to get back together.
Sign #1: It’s been a long time since the breakup.
The longer it’s been since you broke up, the worse your chances of getting them back… at least in most cases.
But here’s something you probably didn’t know: it’s also more difficult to get your ex back immediately after breaking up! Taking time apart is VERY helpful to your chances of getting back together, which is why I advocate for a period of No Contact.
The best time to get your ex back is about a month after your breakup, especially if you’ve stayed away from your ex for those 30 days.
After the first 1 or 2 months, time becomes your enemy. This is when your ex starts to adjust to life on their own, they begin to forget about you, and they may even start dating someone new. This obviously hurts your chances.
In that case, you’re going to have to take a different approach. More on that later.
Sign #2: Your ex has re-married.
If your ex has moved on, found someone new, formed a relationship and got married, then this is a pretty clear sign that they’re never coming back.
Many of you will find this obvious, but others find it hard to accept. I know that it’s hard to admit, but your ex has a new life with someone else now and you’re not a part of it.
The same is true if your ex is in a serious relationship, unfortunately. There’s nothing you can really do to break them up and if you did, wouldn’t you always worry that someone else could come along and do the same to you?
So if your ex is married, or partnered up, it’s time to face reality and move on with your life.
Sign #3: Your ex repeatedly told you to leave them alone.
If your ex has told you something like, “no, I don’t want to be with you. I don’t want to talk to you. Go away”…
…then you need to take them at their word and leave them alone!
I know you think that if you could just make your feelings clear to them then they’d realize that you’re the one for them. But this approach never works once your ex has put their defenses up. Now, instead of bringing you together, every time you reach out it only hardens their heart more.
The way out here is NOT to keep at it and be persistent. That’s just going to lead to a restraining order. Instead you need to give your ex space. A LOT of space.
From here, in some cases, you may still have a chance with them after a long time apart but this is pretty rare.
The way out here is NOT to keep at it and be persistent. That’s just going to lead to a restraining order. Instead you need to give your ex space. A LOT of space.
Sign #4: Your ex has moved far away.
In many cases, if your ex has left town, so have your chances.
How can you promise a future with this person when you two don’t live in the same place? Long distance has put an end to many relationships. In fact, for some of you, it’s why you broke up in the first place.
Distance can easily kill your chances of rekindling things after a breakup because of all the logistical problems. How are you going to meet up when you’re in different places? How are you going to rebuild things from a distance?
It’s not necessarily a death sentence – especially if you don’t live THAT far apart – but it’s rarely a good thing for your chances of getting them back.
Sign #5: The relationship was very toxic.
Time apart can make you realize what you were taking for granted. But if the relationship was extremely toxic, this time apart will make you recognize just how bad things were. The same is true for your ex.
So if you two didn’t get along, had huge fights, were cruel to one another, and especially if things crossed the line into abuse or infidelity… then your chances are pretty much as low as they could be.
If this describes your situation then I’d recommend one or both of you seek professional help to sort out your personal issues before you try to date anyone again, including your ex.
Now, on the positive side, conflict can actually bring two people closer together. Fighting creates a bond, an unhealthy bond, but a bond all the same.
…But there’s a fine line between conflict and toxicity. And of course, it’s not really about how bad YOU think things were. It’s more about your ex’s perception of them. So try to put yourself in their shoes for a minute and ask yourself if you’d want YOURSELF back.
If the relationship was extremely toxic, time apart can make you recognize just how bad things were. The same is true for your ex.
Sign #6: Your ex deleted all photos and mentions of your on their social media.
Social media is the lens through which you show yourself to the world so people tend to be cautious about what they’re showing. This is why your ex will hesitate to make big changes like this until they’re SURE it’s over… because there’s no way to take it back.
Think about it. You wouldn’t post a lovey dovey photo with someone you’ve only been on three dates with even if you felt really confident about the relationship. Because it would be embarrassing if things didn’t work out after declaring your love to the whole world–or at least YOUR whole world.
The same principle applies here. Your ex usually won’t delete these photos unless they’re SURE that things are really over.
But there are some exceptions. If your ex did this just a few days after your breakup then this could have been more of a sign of anger than a sign that they’re truly over you.
Sign #7: Your ex acts indifferently towards you.
Your ex will hesitate to make big changes, such as removing photos of you together on their social media pages, until they’re SURE it’s over… because there’s no way to take it back.
Thankfully, there are some exceptions. If your ex did this just a few days after your breakup then this could have been more of a sign of anger than a sign that they’re truly over you. Or maybe they just want to ensure they don’t get reminded of you when they log on to their social media because they know it’ll cause them to feel sad and heartbroken all over again.
But, generally speaking, if your ex has wiped any mention of you from their Instagram, Facebook, etc… it’s a sign that they’re either fully done with you, or they’re forcing themselves to commit to a permanent breakup.
In Conclusion…
Remember that even if you feel like most of these 7 things listed above apply to you and your situation, it’s not necessarily over. You MAY still have a chance to win back your ex. To find out if there’s still hope, click here and take the ex back quiz for free.
Hopefully most of the 7 signs do NOT apply to you… and if that’s the case, then you’re in good shape! Best of luck in getting a second chance. Subscribe to The Breakup Corner on YouTube for more proven tips and advice to ensure you win back your ex before it’s too late.
